Having a proper oatmeal ritual (that includes coffee and other habits of your choice, can be like meditation. Steel cut oats take a long time to cook. Don't do this if you are short on time.
Get your oatmeal can and raisins out. Measure 1/4 cup, heaping, of oats and add to tall pan. Add 2 and 1/4 cups of water.
And the raisins.
Add the water. Turn on high heat and bring to boil.
Let pot boil but watch closely. Oatmeal can easily boil over.
While your waiting for the water to boil, make your coffee. Do some stretches. Whatever. Just watch the pot because it will boil and then you must act!
Stir a few times as it starts to get foamy.
Once it starts boiling, turn it down to a medium low heat so it's still bubbling a bit but will start to slow cook.
It should be looking like this. Leave on this heat and stir often for the next 10 minutes.
This is the time of day where I think about wtf I'm doing with my life. I also check email, do some stretches, watch some tv, ponder sh*t. I'm self employed so I have this kind of time.
Give it a good stir every few minutes. You want to make sure the oats never stick to the bottom. They shouldn't be yet but later they will if you don't stir.
Pour your coffee. Enjoy.
When a filmy center starts to build up, stir and break it up. Keep doing this until the oats start absorbing water and thickening. Make sure the heat is not too low, but also not too high.
Drink coffee. Futz around and BS. Check email. Whatever. Then stir!
You may get these blops on your stirring device. Scrape them off and add them back!
When it starts getting thick and soupy and looks like it could almost be done, time to add the milk!
Add a couple of blops of milk. Maybe 1/2 to 2/3 cup. Stir in thoroughly. The oats will now be very thin again. That's ok - the milk cooks down. Leave on same heat and stir constantly.
The milk will slowly bubble. Stir and scrape bottom of pan. Keep the heat low and let this slow cook if you have the time.
Be sure to scrape the bottom and sides and shake off those blops back into the gruel. Don't worry, the milk will cook down and absorb. Yes it takes a while.
Should really be thickening up by now. Almost done! Keep stirring. It will start looking like a bubbling cauldron.
You should see texture and definition to the oats at this point. It's pretty much done. Wait 1 more minute.
This is done. Turn off heat. Stir one more time, transfer to bowl.
Stir in the bowl too.
Add cinnamon and stir some more. Then let sit for 5 minutes.
Oats will be thick and creamy. Severe morning gruel. Goldilocks style. It's hot - be careful. Now, enjoy!
A word about the kind of oatmeal you buy: Get the real stuff from Ireland - McCann's steel cut oats. It's $8 most places and lasts for weeks. The can is also cool. Makes for authentic porridge.